11 Apr 2014

Confessions of an online serial dater: It begins again

I initially joined the online dating community in hopes of meeting new people around the city — people other than my peers at SF State. As the majority of you know, it can be tedious to actually make new friends, get into the dating scene or just casually get laid by randoms in the midst of our busy student lives. Ain’t nobody got time for the initiation period, so the thought of being matched up with someone and skipping all the man-shopping se…

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31 Oct 2012

"Kink!" workshop demonstrates safety within BDSM community

…d topics of consent, fetishes, myths, media, role playing, toys and a brief history all surrounding the topic of BDSM with safety being an overriding theme. “BDSM is not abuse, and abuse is not BDSM,” Day said. The presenters discussed that having consent, using safe words and not engaging in drug use are important rules to follow when it comes to kink play. “Safe, sane and sober” is a general motto in kink communities. Using places designated fo…

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24 Sep 2012

PHOTOS, VIDEO: Folsom Street Fair unleashes San Francisco's wild side

…mething came over me and I couldn’t resist the bondage,” Moretti said. Vanilla is a term used by the BDSM community, meaning those who are not into BDSM. “Once you find something that sparks your interest, you get really into it. It doesn’t have to be about sex,” Moretti said. Referring to his friend, Moretti said, “I mean, look at this guy, he looks innocent and sweet and honestly. He’s a nerd who plays…

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22 Sep 2012

The Ins & Outs: Virgin's guide to Folsom Street Fair

The 29th annual Folsom Street Fair will be an exhibition of kinktastic fun, filled with leather daddies, eager submissives and more than 250 vendors and exhibits displaying all that the Bay Area has to offer in BDSM. But don’t strap on your ball gag just yet — there’s much to learn before heading to your first Folsom Street Fair. The fair, which will grace San Francisco’s SOMA neighborhood with its presence Sept. 23, spans 13 c…

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09 Apr 2012

The Ins and Outs: Risks and rewards of breath control play

Someone’s hands tightening around your neck, cutting off blood flow and oxygen to your brain to the point that you feel like you’re going to pass out seems like a nightmare. Or a fantasy. This is one of many ways to perform erotic asphyxiation, also known as breath control play, the practice of intentionally restricting blood flow to the brain for sexual arousal. The practice differs from autoerotic asphyxiation in that it is generally performed…

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12 Mar 2012

The Ins And Outs: Losing your sex club virginity

Since sex in public comes with all kinds of legal strings attached, you might have decided to bring it indoors. But bumping and grinding in your room with the door closed is just plain boring if you’re a bit of an exhibitionist – so head to a sex club. San Francisco has lots of them including Power Exchange, a pansexual venue where anything goes; SF Citadel, a BDSM club currently changing venues; and Mission Control, which features themed…

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13 Dec 2011

Trust a dominating force in BDSM relationships

…ys of kinky affection aren’t for everyone. SF State student Taylor McElroy discovered her fascination with BDSM when she read a master/slave scene on an erotica website. She then introduced the idea to her girlfriend of five years and it became an aspect of their sex life that they both find very enjoyable. “We’ve matured and tried things together that I don’t think we would have explored with anyone else,” McElroy said. For her, BDSM is a…

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08 Mar 2011

VIDEO: Madamn Burnz host 'Really Raw as flux', an aerial acrobatic and raw food show

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_wvxNBtc8rw[/youtube] Flashing lights and psychedelic rock music set the scene at the Jellyfish Gallery Thursday, Feb. 24, for the aerial silk and fire eating performance by Madamn Burnz and her students for Raw as Flux: The Food Chain. A massaged avocado and kale salad was just one of the raw food snacks offered before the show. People and performers mingled for the first hour amongst the BDSM oil paintin…

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